So Tobei got home and I explained everything to him. I went and did some searching and found out if the theme you are using does not have a comment file in it then it uses the comment file from the default theme. So I deleted the theme one and Tobei and I got to work on the default one. We tweaked it to work with the theme. Then I installed the plug in I wanted to use so that you all get an e-mail when I reply to you. Everything works!! I am so happy.
I was e-mailing people the hard way to make sure they got my replies. Doing it that way though my blog looked like I couldn’t be bothered to reply to people. That wasn’t the case though. Now I can reply right on the blog and notify the commenter all at the same time. I am so proud of myself. Theme Saved!!