Now that I am pregnant with my second baby it got me thinking something. What is proper baby shower etiquette for a second baby?
I remember talking with my mom last year when someone we knew was expecting again. My mom had mentioned a baby shower for them and it had us having a disagreement over whether or not it was proper.
My thinking at the time was that there should not be a second baby shower. I explained it to my mom that family and friends had already helped start her off as a new mother. The big items were purchased and she had clothes from the first child. I don’t think it helped any that I did not like the person who the shower was going to be for. I am not going to get into that though. This is not the time, the place or someone I wish to waste my time talking about.
My moms stand was that every baby deserves a shower. Why should baby number two or three not get a shower when baby number one did. We left it at that based on my thoughts of the mother the shower was for once my mom pointed out that my issue was with her not the shower.
Now here I am pregnant. When Tobei and I began our relationship I already had Little Man and Tobei also had a son. His son does not live with us but it is something we long for. Again another issue I will not get into. We do not have a month to listen to that story. Anyways Tobei and I decided we would not have any more children. We were happy with how our family was. We gave away EVERYTHING, did not save a single thing. It didn’t help that we lack storage space so were happy to claim our home back.
Two years later we started discussing wanting to have another child. After a few months going back and forth and weighing all the pros and cons we decided deep down and in our hearts we really wanted another child.So now here we are with another baby on the way and nothing, not even an outfit for the baby.
My mom has already briefly mentioned a shower before and I brushed her off. Tonight we were out for dinner with my dad and step-mom and we were discussing the new pregnancy. I was telling them how we had given away everything. All the clothes, the cherished life saving swing, the car seat had expired and so on. My step-mom got a huge smile on her face and said it was ok as we would have a baby shower just like we did for Little Man. I explained my wishy washy opinion to her as well and she gave me the same argument my mom did. You know the one about every baby deserving a shower, plus this was our first child together. So that left me thinking and inspired this blog post.
What is proper baby shower etiquette for a second baby? What is tradition in your family? Tobei’s family has one for every baby, as does mine by the sounds of it. Tobei says this baby deserves a shower. I say… well I say nothing as I have no clue. If my family wants to throw me one then that is something they want to do. They want to celebrate just like they did before who am I to say no? However is it proper?